Marrying Young: Love or Socially Obligated?

I recently saw a whole Facebook photo album dedicated to the wedding of a girl i knew growing up. Mind you, this girl is younger than i am (I'm currently 21). I went through the whole album, all the while thinking "Damn! i can't believe she's married. What the hell is she thinking?" now maybe this might be reading into things a bit, but looking at the pictures, she didn't look happy. She didn't have that "This is the man i love with all my heart" look in her eyes that most women do when getting married. Instead, she had a look more along the lines of "well, i guess this foo will have to do".

After looking at the rest of the pictures, i started to think: "Why the hell is she getting married?" For all i know, it could be love...............but i don't think that is the case. Being Polynesian, it could just be because mum and dad told her to do it, but that would make them DINOSAURS. I mean, who the hell believes in that stuff anymore? (FYI, i am only speaking on behalf of Polynesians. if you are any other race, i don't know if this is normal).

Then i started to think "Is she feeling pressured by society?" But i know the girl.......she don't think that far in advance. hahahahaha...........but it still brought up a good point. See, i live in Utah. Home of the "We've known each other a week before we got engaged" couples. Home of mothers of 4 Kids and only 24 years old. Home of the "Your 26 and still not married?" Stigma. Home of baby boom without the war.

I've learned that even if we fight things with all our heart, we still (somewhere deep within ourselves) yearn to be or feel accepted. We want things that our friends have, we want to be them when they are happy, we envy sometimes that they are happy and we have to deal with this crap we call a life. Others just hear it from their families. "Look at him. 24 and no girlfriend. Hopeless.""Look at her. 27 and not married. She'll be single for the rest of her life."I've heard it all. But why do people feel this way? Why is it the end of the world to be young and single.

I'm not saying that I'll never get married. I'm just saying that if getting married makes you happy, then by all means go for the gold. But if you are one of those lame ass people who just does it to do it, or because your "Clock is ticking",then may your kids never be like the dumb-ass you've become.

Here's to your HAPPILY EVER AFTER!


Later

Prolouge: Introduction

This is pretty much the beginning of my blogging experience. I've attempted this many times, so hopefully this time it sticks. I have a lot to say, a lot to get off of my chest. So why not do it in the most EASY-Access spot on the internet..........well, at least it used to be. Now everyone one is on Facebook and Twitter, so i guess i'm safe. If i say anything that might offend you, there is a back button you can press, or that nice little red-box at the top with a big X in it can make my words disappear. I was thinking about introducing myself, but what the hell for? that's what the PROFILE is for.

This is just for thoughts. Thoughts that i had that day, or thoughts of past stories that I was told by someone else. Either way, this is a space to clear my head so i can stress about crap that actually matters. Like how to lose weight, or how to pay my bills, or how to fix the flashing SERVICE ENGINE SOON light that is starting to cause me to yell at my car that has no name. This is a sort of therapy for me.

So you are all my therapist. If you think i should pay you, again, there is a nice little red-box with an X on it that you can click on to get the order form. But i think this is good enough for an introduction. Oh, i almost forgot the most important part: MY NAME! My name is.............on the profile.


Thanks for reading


Later